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‘I worry all the time that I’m failing my kids.’

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Best-selling author Andrea Mara on why we are fascinated by the idea of bad mothers…


As I type this, I’m at a swimming pool, watching my son’s swimming lesson. Except I’m not really watching, because I’m sitting on the floor with my back to the gallery window, in order to write this article.

Today, I am a bad mother. Then again, I’m here on a sweltering hot, sunny afternoon, so that my child can learn to swim. So maybe I’m a mediocre mother, trying to multitask. There are two other women sitting beside me, both minding toddlers while their older kids swim.

‘Remember when you had your first and you thought you wanted loads,’ one says to the other. ‘Yeah, and then you have three,’ says her friend, ‘and there’s no way you want more. Three is the limit.’ ‘Yep,’ the first woman sighs. ‘I’m just so damn tired.’ This resonates.

Best-selling author Andrea Mara on why we are fascinated by the idea of bad mothers...

As I type this, I’m at a swimming pool, watching my son’s swimming lesson. Except I’m not really watching, because I’m sitting on the floor with my back to the gallery window, in order to write this article.

Today, I am a bad mother. Then again, I’m here on a sweltering hot, sunny afternoon, so that my child can learn to swim. So maybe I’m a mediocre mother, trying to multitask. There . . .

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All Her Fault by Andrea Mara is published by Transworld and is out now.

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