In the latest installation of her Anon column, Liadán Hynes interviews a woman about the reality of being a stepmother, the trope of the evil stepmother, and what advice she would give to others in the same situation.
“I started dating my partner eight years ago. He has three children from his previous marriage. I wasn’t a stepmother straight away; it took around about a year before I first met the children. And we consulted with professionals as to how I should be introduced. They knew of me; they knew my name. We met for coffee, then we met in town for lunch. I would pop in for a coffee in the house. It was very gradual, with steps back when that was needed. But it was with the mindset that I was going to be a permanent fixture, it wasn’t a casual thing. I don’t think anyone goes into dating someone with children casually. Well, they shouldn’t.